Within
a 5 month time span, I reconnected with three old friends on Facebook who I
haven’t seen in 20 to 25 years. All three of these women friends were in my
life when I was 19-years old—a time when I was lost and confused—clueless of
what or where my future was headed. Clouded times. Somehow (my memory fails me)
we lost touch, most likely because we were all trying to figure out our ‘niche
in this world’ (I know, so cliché).
During
my summer vacation, I had the opportunity to see each of these women. Although
time has passed, and we aged, failed and succeeded at things, we just picked up
from where we left off. The time lapse didn’t create any awkwardness. A few of
us cried when we first saw each other, and then our youthful spunkiness came to
life. We listened and talked about what happened since we last saw each other,
and where life has brought us to now. Back in the day, all three of these women
stifled some of my sadness because of the great times and private moments.
I
used to play softball with one of these women. There was a bar on the south
side of Chicago that sponsored women softball teams. Every Sunday, during one
of the hottest, most humid Chicago summers I can remember, we were out on a
baseball field. No one on our team was serious about playing—it was all about
the drinking. We stood out in the field with a cigarette in one hand, and a
drink at our feet. When the game ended, which we usually lost, we’d head on
over to the bar for an afternoon of music and pitchers of lemonade and vodka. Today
this woman is a chef, has a beautiful home, a husband, and more to come in
cooking and publishing.
I knew the
other two women from high school. One of the women I continued to hang out with into community
college with … and we forgot about classes when it came to guys. We wound up meeting
a bunch of guys in our first year of college—two of them becoming our
boyfriends. One evening, spruced up in punk fashion, we headed downtown to a
bar called Medusa. Throughout the evening, we mingled with others and danced
all night. It was a magical night, and one I’ve never forgotten. Today this
woman has a Master’s degree, she’s a wife, and a mother to four children.
Last
but not least, the third woman and I did the goofiest things—one being a total
blond moment. I told my husband this story a week before she contacted me on
Facebook. When we were 19-years old, we were going to a homecoming dance at a
college near the Iowa border. My friend and I didn’t feel like taking the bus,
so I took her for her driver’s license, she post-dated checks to buy a car, and
we took off to this college. We had a blast that weekend. While driving home, we
were hung over and distracted from talking. When we finally stopped, three
hours later, we found out that we were in Omaha, Nebraska. We got lost in Nebraska coming home from Illinois. Figure that one out. We had a quarter
tank of gas left and we had $4.00 to our name. A couple felt bad for us and
gave my friend some money. Needless to say, we arrived home 12 hours later. Today
this woman and her husband own their own business and she’s the mother of two
children.
As
crazy fun as it was back then when we were together, it’s been a beautiful
experience reconnecting. I feel like they are supposed to be in my life now. These
three very different women blossomed into three incredible women, and I hope our
reconnection will foster a new fun-filled friendship.
Friendships
and Hugs,
Bea
I've only kept touch with my high school classmates via Facebook for the most part, but on occasion I've ran into someone I hung-out with in high school, and have been amazed how it seems like those nearly 20 years have not gone by... It's great that you've reconnected.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was living in Illinois, I didn't run into any of my classmates. Now that I'm in Germany, it's great to have connected with these classmates.
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